The damn super (whatever) cape!

NO MORE SUPER wife-mother-partner without a village...just ME

I hear so many women say they are at the end of their rope. They are tired of trying to maintain the toxic cycle of the supermom-wife-partner. They want to feel free and not be judged when they decide to put away the damn SUPER (whatever) CAPE! Besides, no one notices when they have it on anyways. It is when she takes the damn thing off that others notice, judge, and place their expectations on her. Others are the ones who never had a cape or someone with one who really wants to be free, but are not brave enough (yet).

When I read this article, my heart ached for the new mommies without a village. It also ached for the women without Aunt-Tee and Big Ma that had children beyond toddlerhood. I thought about all the moms of tweens, teens,and adult adolescents. I thought about the married-single-moms. Yes, just because he put a ring on it doesn't mean she has it all figured out. Balancing a home, family, and a significant other can be challenging and overwhelming for ONE person. We wear so many hats as women. The world has conditioned us to feel like we are suppose to lose ourselves as we embrace these sacred titles. We have been conditioned to believe that we can do alone exactly what the woman with a village did. No, no, hell no!

Beloved woman, you have not failed and there is nothing more that you need to do. You are amazing and I don't even know how you do it all. You are at the end of your rope because you are not a robot. You are a human, a person, and YOU (your name), without the titles matter. The feeling of exhaustion that you are experiencing is real. The thought of getting in your car and driving somewhere over the rainbow is your body and soul begging you to save yourself. Of course, the others won't get it! Why should they? They are not you. Beloved, don't deny your truth. Don't let the others smother that voice that is calling out to protect you. You already know what you need to do to save yourself. Yes, you do know. Listen to your soul. Let it guide you. Save yourself and put a grinding halt to the pattern you may be creating for those who notice you the most. One day your children will have to find their truth too.

Now woman, go and get yourself! Give the SUPER (whatever) CAPE back to society and the others. It doesn't belong to you. Take back some of that power for yourself. When you go, other Reborn Women will pray for your health and strength and encourage you to keep walking. When you return we will be here for you. We will praise, welcome, and embrace you dear woman. ‪

"The "village" is your support network. That's it. It's the people you can trust with your child. It's family who live nearby and can watch your kid for an evening—or even a whole night! It's a friend who brings some freezer meals to a new mom to help her out. It's someone you can confide in about the stresses of ‪#‎momlife‬ without feeling judged. It's how many people you can count on in an emergency. That's your village."

http://mom.me/baby/31807-moms-without-village/